2020…next!!! A quick review on how we survived.

2020…next!!! A quick review on how we survived. 

Well 2020 was 12 months with a decades worth of stuff jammed packed into it. 
It included apocalyptic stuff of nightmares really. It still boggles my mind when I think of how the world seems to have stopped turning….oh shoot, I hope I didn’t just jinx us? The world can’t really stop turning… right???!!

I think we need to send 2020 off quietly, respectfully and properly, as to not piss it off. This post doesn’t include any big plans, hopes or dreams for 2021; no, let’s not rock the boat. 

Instead let’s take a quick look back at how things changed and how we coped and managed to stay connected and somewhat sane…ish. 

Grooming

Turns out during a global pandemic, grooming is the first thing to go. Jeans and any kind of none stretchy pants were deemed none essential early on. I remember years and years ago, there was a debate at work; were leggings pants? We decided that leggings were not pants, wow we were so wrong on that one. Turns out leggings are appropriate for any and all occasions. 

While locked in our homes for months some of us let our hair grow, some of us let our roots grow out, while others recruited their significant others to cut and or dye their hair. My friend “made” her bf give her highlights, he did a great job, but was sooo nervous, oh the pressure on his shoulders!!! 

I dyed my hair pink, it looked good for two whole days until I washed it and then looked yucky and lasted longer than it was supposed to. 

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I started “harassing” my hairdresser around week 7th or 8th of lockdown. It turns out my mental state is directly connected to my roots, who knew? Long story short, I was her first client when salons were allowed to re-open. 

My hair was down to my elbows; it needed of a good cut, and by good cut, I mean I cut a good ten inches off. Side note, want it long again, there is no winning. 

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On the male side, shaving became redundant, beards have never been more popular. 

Zooming

Zoom became part of our lives this past year. It was a way for us to stay connected. My girlfriend, Nadine, set up weekly Zoom calls for us. I have to admin that I was a bit reluctant at first to jump on the Zoom train, but they turned out to be so much fun once we got the hang of them. 

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I may get in trouble for posting this pic, but it makes me laugh every time I see it. This was our eighties side ponytail walk down memory lane. What I loved about our calls is that we didn’t just sit there and chat, we would get up and leave, come back, walked around and showed dumb stuff off, they were our lifeline to each other. 

Eating 

If we wanted to sum up 2020 in one photo, it would be a pic of a banana bread; a close second would be a loaf of sourdough bread, lol. We cooked and baked, like a lot! The local supermarkets in my area were pretty well stocked, until you went down the baking aisle; flour and chocolate chips were in high demand! 

Ordering takeout this year became a show of support and solidarity for local restaurants. I felt it was part of my civic duty to order takeout a few times a week. 

One of the great things, yes there were a few, is that families were forced to spend time together. Family meals and old school board games have made a big comeback. 

Exercising 

Social media was full of people living their best, healthiest lives, and that was awesome…for them!! Some of us, maybe most of us, struggled, I was one of those. Covid 19 became the new freshman 15 and it wasn’t limited to freshman apparently.  

What helped me, somewhat balance the copious amounts of chocolate I was consuming, was that I was able to meet up with two of my bffs to walk, while socially distancing of course. Our biggest challenge was that one of us is a low talker, lol. Being outside is/was so therapeutic, just breathing fresh air helped manage our moods.

On every walk I took a selfie when we reached our turnaround point. I deleted most of the pics and now I wish I would have kept them all, here are a few that I saved. 


By the spring bicycles were hot items, I bought this pretty pink one.


It was really weird cruising downtown, it was a ghost town. I half expected a zombie to pop out and chase me down Queen Street.

Celebrating

We found a special way to celebrate birthdays this year; birthday car parades became a thing. I was blessed to have one in my honor and it was way more meaningful than one might think. I’ve never felt so close to my friends even though I couldn’t hug them. Side note, my brother, who was in my bubble, came out of his car and gave me a hug, since I was standing there crying, six feet away from everyone. Which made me cry even more since he isn’t a big hugger, so it was extra special.

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This pic below, was a special socially distant birthday dinner for two in a garage, loved it!! Side note, having to do things differently sometimes makes them feel more special. Maybe it’s because it takes a bit more effort, which shows how much we are loved?


One of the things that broke my heart was that the Class of 2020 was robbed of all the normal celebrations that we’ve all gotten to experience. No proms, no big graduation ceremonies or parties. The pic below is of my nephew leaving his high school experience behind.

For his graduation he was allowed to have four people in attendance. We arrived, they called his name, he walked on stage, then walked out. It took less than 5 minutes. We were so proud of him, yet felt sad for him at the same time.

I need to say that his generation of supposed “snowflakes” are far tougher than they have been given credit for. Love you so much Jack and so proud of you!!!

This pic below was a small backyard family gathering for my bff’s daughter, who also graduated this year. We took a quick 2020 selfie; by June we were allowed to gather in small groups.

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Giving

2020 showed us the importance of communities and how we are responsible to help each other. My coworkers and I organized a food drive parade as a way to give back to our community. Even though most of us, at the time, were temporarily laid off, we felt fortunate that we would have jobs to return to. Not everyone had that sense of security.

We were hoping for 30 cars, we lost count at 150 cars. I think most of those who participated would admit that we got more out of it than we feel we gave? People were hanging out of their car windows talking to each other. Some were gathered on the grass or road catching up while respecting social distancing. It was sooooo nice to see each other.

With the vaccine being rolled out, let’s dare to hope that 2021 will be kinder to all of us. But in the meantime and moving forward we need to continue to shop local, support and be kind to each other; in brief, don’t be an asshole! lol

Thank you for reading and sharing.

muah!

Liette

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Things that, it turns out, I no longer need, in 2020 and annoying or odd things that I really miss!

Things that, it turns out, I no longer need in 2020 and annoying or odd things that I really miss!

As I mentioned in one my previous post, 2020 will go down as the year that all our plans, some hopes and dreams, died a lonely death!! Yes, I’m feeling a bit dramatic at the moment, I’m hoping this post will help get it out of my system, wish me luck.

I noticed the other day that there are things that were part of my daily life that have now become useless and just, meh, plain pointless. And on the flip side, there are things that used to annoy me that I now really miss. Here are my lists, let me know if you have any good ones to add.

Things I apparently no longer need

#1. High Heels of any kind (if you’re a straight man reading, feel free to skip this section and go directly to #2, lol)

I just bought a new pair of bootleg/bell bottom ish jeans. They’re really long on me, which is odd, because my legs are pretty long. I’ve never had to get any of my jeans hemmed…like ever; but these are loooong.
They’re obviously meant to be worn with a high heel shoe or boot. Lucky for me, I have a closet full of both.
The first day I wore my sassy new jeans, it was a cool fall day, paired with a black suede bootie with a nice chunky high heel. Oh and I wore them with my new black sweater, in case you were wondering, but the sweater has nothing to do with the point I’m trying to make, so I’ll just move on… but I did want you to have an accurate overview of my whole outfit, lol.
So these booties, or my go to, perfect boot of 2019, used to be super comfortable, but something’s gone really wrong. I think all this social distancing may have affected my feet, because they now hurt my feet; they even gave me a blister after wearing them for a short while. WTF??!!

The second time I wore my new jeans I paired them with an orange and nude, high heel, shoe with an ankle strap; they’re super funky! 2019 me would have worn these shoes on a trade show day, when I would have been standing in our booth for 6 to 8 hours on a cement floor with a thin layer of carpet. 2019 me, would have rocked those orange shoes and my feet would have cooperated and looked cute. But 2020 me ended up taking them off after a short trip to Sobey’s for groceries. 2020 me was seriously wondering why the hell I was wearing fancy jeans, let alone funky shoes, to do groceries?
This was the moment I realized that things have changed and these changes may last forever? I feel like once you go flat you may never be able to go back??

#2. Suitcases

My high heel revelation got me wondering if there are other items that used to be super important in my life, that Covid has ruined for me? Turns out, there are, like suitcases.

2019 me always had one suitcase on the go at all times and sometimes I even had two. I’ve packed for two different consecutive trips at the same time more than once. I’ve already gotten home from one trip, drop off one suitcase and left the next day for another trip with my second pre-packed suitcase.

I have two medium/large pink suitcases, one small white carry on, a bright purple carry on and a huge black suitcase that could fit a small human being in it. 2019 me always had an open suitcase on my floor, that was either getting emptied or filled up. 2020 me has zero use for any of them!
They’re just lined up in my walk in closet looking sad and pitiful. One of my hot pink ones is being used to store extra toilet paper, which is so 2020.
Every once in awhile I open my closet and stare at them and remember the hustle and bustle of my 2019 life.

My big move from Vegas back to Canada required all my suitcases.

#3. Lipstick

This one I am not ready to say good bye to, but really what’s the point when wearing a mask?

I was raised by an Acadian mother who would say to me before I left the house almost daily: “ben Liette, n’oublie pas ton rouge a lèvres». Which translates to; don’t embarrass and shame the family by leaving the house without lipstick. Sooo that may not be the exact translation, but it’s def the underlying sentiment, lol. It does explain a lot about my obsession with lipstick.
Covid has not changed my love of lipstick, but it has led to everyone of my new face masks being permanently stained on the inside with the prettiest shades of reds and pinks. Yes I always have freshly painted lips under my mask, which is useless, I know, but I can’t kick the habit.
Is lipstick in 2020 just a waste of time?? I am starting to question the meaning of life! Too dramatic?? Too far? Ok, I can dial it back a tiny bit.

My current, Covid fall season fav. FYI this colour stains, all my masks have this shade in them.

These next things used to annoy me, pre-Covid, but now I really, really miss!

#1. Airports

Anyone who travels a lot gets to a point where they hate airports; they’re too busy and crowded with cranky people, the food sucks, the seats are uncomfortable, flights are often delayed…

I’ve realized that I did a lot of thinking and problem solving while in the friendly skies. I also liked to take pics of the clouds…ah the good old days!

You’d think that one of the perks of being grounded at home would be a welcomed break from the hustle and bustle that comes with flying and spending hours in airports? You would think, but apparently not.
The other day I found myself daydreaming about being at a gate waiting for a flight. I realized that I have, or should I say had, an airport routine. And I guess I’m missing my regular routines, even the ones that I used to complaint about, like waiting at my gate to board my flight.

I found this pic on my phone, I think it captures my, I’m ready for adventure vibe!

Turns out I liked knowing my way around all the big and smaller airports, it made me feel worldly; I had my favorite snack spots, I would browse the shops then, if time permitted, I’d go to the Maple Leaf lounge to get a few freebies, like the newest edition of House and Home mag, before making my way to my gate where I would organize what I would need on the flight in my big ass travel purse and what wasn’t needed would go in my bag that would go in the overhead compartment. I didn’t even realize that I had an airport/gate routine, but I did and I had it down to a science and now I miss it!

#2. Sampling cosmetics

So there is nothing annoying about shopping for cosmetics, I love it! But I didn’t realize how much I enjoyed it until I was told I couldn’t do it anymore. Sure I can still shop for stuff, but it’s not like it was before.
This may sound silly, but I’ve noticed that when I was bored or feeling blue, I’d make my way to Sephora or Shoppers Drug Mart and just wander the aisles testing new products. Mental health wise, I think it was a mini escape from whatever was weighing me down. I could spend 45 min to an hour trying to find the perfect shade of lipstick or the sharpest liquid eyeliner tip.
But gone are the samples, no more using your inner wrist to compare different lipstick shades. It probably sounds dumb, it sounds kinda dumb to me as I write this, but not being able to play with the samples has taken all the fun out of the cosmetic counter for me and gone is my go to stress reliever and that is annoying to me!!

So unlike most of my posts, that have a positive vibe or twist to them, this one is more of a pity party and for that I apologize. But if I am feeling like this, I assume that others are feeling a bit off and annoyed too? Have you ever gotten annoyed with yourself for being annoying?? Anyone? Lol

Tomorrow is a new day, I may put my fancy jeans back on with another pair of heels and make my way to Shoppers, where I’ll try to get lost in all the pretty colours and packaging, hopefully sans new blisters!

Stay safe and stay sane friends!!!
muah!

Liette

Get used to seeing me in a hat, with the salons closed again, they’ll serve to keep me warm and hide my roots!!