Senior Living

Senior Living

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a senior citizen? Neither had I. My parents have been in a seniors apartment building for the past five years or so. I would visit and say hi to the “old” people in the halls, but I always seemed to be in a rush; rushing in and rushing out.

Then something happened, my dad go sick; at first, when I would travel back, I would spend a few nights with my parents; they set up a bed for me in my dad’s TV room, but I would eventually end up in a hotel or at a friends house.

This last time I was home, I could tell they really wanted and needed me to be here with them. So instead of rushing in and rushing out, I stayed.

Here are my observations; I don’t think we give “older” people that much thought because it scares us. It’s scary to have aging parents, so we don’t think about it. We deal with issues as they arrive, but we try not to think about it too much, plus we are busy, rushing in and rushing out.

Newsflash! We are all aging and one day, if we take good care of ourselves, we are going to be in our 80’s and maybe even in our 90’s too. Have you ever given any thought to what that will be like? Neither had I, until now.

At some point we stop rushing and have lots of time on our hands. I suspect their will be a lot of time for reflecting and thinking about the “good old” days. But guess what? If you aren’t 94 at this very moment, then the “good old” days are now! So maybe we should stop rushing through our time? Maybe we should slow down from time to time to take in the scenery?

My parents apartment is not an assisted living place; their fellow residents are independent, active and vibrant people; some seem to have better social lives than I do?? Mmm, I may need to work on a better balance?

There are lots of “younger” residents, in their early 70’s to mid 70’s, but the people that I am noticing more, since I have stopped rushing, are those in their 80’s and 90’s. I’ve been watching them and talking to them.

It’s at once heartbreaking to hear them talk about dying, and they do talk openly about it. And inspiring to see a calmness and acceptance they have on the cycle of life. We are all born to die, but we don’t think of it, we push it away. I guess when you are in your 80’s and older, it feels a lot closer. It must get harder to ignore? It looms over you in a way that a 40 year old doesn’t have the time to notice.

Being here has made me slow down, instead of walking past the gang that make puzzles on the third floor, I stop and talk to them. I am thankful that when my dad is feeling up to it and wants to go for a walk they greet him with a smile and give him the best chair.

Instead of thinking puzzles are lamo, I think, how nice it is that if you are feeling lonely you can walk down the hall and join a group of people.

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I stop on the second floor in the common area to say hi to my mom and her friends who play cards every night from 7 to 9; except for on Wednesday nights, when they play bingo. I pick up treats for them to share.

Today I made a point to walk three cars passed my spot to thank the man who has been dusting the snow off my parents car for the past week. I asked if he was the snow angel who’s been clearing off all the cars; he gave me the biggest smile. Turns out, this not rushing in and out is proving to be good for my soul.

And when I am feeling grief stricken with what is looming over me and my family; I find comfort in the faces of people who know how that loss feels, because they have lost husbands, wives and other loved ones.

So being here, living amongst a bunch of senior citizens has proven to be a gift. I will try to never be too busy to give someone a heartfelt smile as I rushed past them.

Full disclosure, the goal of this post was going to be funny and light hearted, because these old people are pretty sassy and funny as hell. But it quickly took a turn and I just went with it, lol. I hope that it makes you think a bit, even if it makes you feel a bit uncomfortable, that’s ok too. Let’s be nicer humans!

muah!

Liette

 

 

Author: oui-liette

Just a normal girl who gets to plan corporate events and travel for a living. In this blog, I will share my adventures, the good, the bad and the funny!

20 thoughts on “Senior Living”

  1. As one of the “young 70s” group you refer to (I live down the road in Fredericton), thank you for writing this. Thank you for taking the time at your (and my kids’) time of life to stop and try to see this future phase of life from a different perspective. You did a great job!

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  2. Reblogged this on Robby Robin's Journey and commented:
    As a 70+er with kids of an age similar to Liette, at blog ‘A Sassy Lifestyle’, I was taken by Liette’s honest and heartwarming analysis of aging, in this case of her parents and their friends. A nice read for those who find themselves in this exalted phase of life and also for those of you whose find your parents in that exalted phase of life! Btw, for the interest of fellow Maritimers, Liette’s parents life in Moncton. She lives in Las Vegas! 😊

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  3. Dear Oui-Oui…

    I was really hoping for a laugh when I read the title of this one. But instead, I read the most touching and grounding post. Thank you for keeping it real and getting me a little choked up, it’s a gentle reality check. Xox

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  4. Merci , thank you , you are amazing what you just posted is so beautiful I feel so blessed to have you as a second daughter. Your mom is so proud of you and shares you with us cards ladies, so now we feel your like are adopted daughter. I know it’s a very hard time for you right now , your doing a great job. Again thank you 🙏

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  5. Thanks Liette, I read your article through another follower, Jane Fritz, and now follow you. Is it permissible to reblog your articles occasionally? I don’t see that as a possibility for sharing just FaceBook and Twitter.
    I think I now have a better perspective of how my children see their senior Dad.

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    1. Hi Wayne, thank you for reading and following. Yes, please feel free to re-post. You can follow me on Facebook at oui-liette and share from there. Or you may be able to re-post like Jane does?

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